You Can be Toxic Someday

 I don't know how many of us are toxic who are reading this. Maybe you will get hurt after this.....but the thing is  I want that you guys get hurt. Ya, you heard it right, you who are the victims, who are the only victims of this cruel world. 

Ending this ironic quote let's just focus on why this topic and why the fuck do I care about it. (Let's be clear I am not  going to talk about what are the signs of it or how to stay away from people like that.)

I am going to talk about how you are toxic!

At some point in time maybe because of some mental stress or people around you you become toxic and I am just as I already had that experience. Not laughing when someone cracks a  joke about me or always playing victim card making people say sorry to me.  I know that's a big revelation from my side. I was toxic in my life once but that wasn't my fault you know I didn't even know the meaning of toxic back then. Come on guys cut me some slack! Don't look at my blog like that.

Maybe I will share that someday if you insist.

Even now you may not know the meaning of a toxic person, and even you may have been toxic once in your life I bet. Let me define it for you if you don't know.

"Toxic person is a person who directly or indirectly makes you / your thoughts miserable/negative. The person may or may not know what he is doing. There is no discrimination both girls and boys can be toxic "

Now let's come back to us, we can be toxic.

 The biggest and mysterious question which I wonder right now is, why people tend to be toxic?

I mean this is something which even I don't know as a person can be toxic because of some other person but why is the other person toxic. Well just like I said I don't know the answer right now maybe in the future I will know or people right may know the answer.

I guess we can all agree that the aunties("aunts " which sounds like ants) living in our societies who gossip are the most toxic person. Now the first thing we can stop listening to them or their gossips. Please that is one big mistake you can do even if you are not toxic or trying to intoxicate. Just don't NEVER, don't even think about that out of curiosity. I know many people will be trying to listen to it but forget that. So if we observe (contradicting myself) them we find out that they are vellas (vellas in Punjabi mean person who has nothing to do )  and they are jealous(Of what? I have no idea!), may have a small grudge turned into a big grudge or just trying to pass out time. 

So why do they do it, there are possibilities why but I think the best explanation is that they have an empty mind without the desire to grow or improve or simply saying not being aware of what they are doing. There is an idiom an empty mind is a devil's workshop.

Your inner voice: Okay dude so what you are saying is that people tend to be toxic because they have no work to do. 

Me: Yes bcoz they don't have any plans for the future.

You again: So can a person whose job is to be social with people is always toxic? And why aren't all extroverts toxic?

Now that's definitely a badass question to think about. Now first I am not an extrovert and  I don't know how they think but and maybe an extrovert can correct me here. Now look I am going to answer it in a way that we don't get converted into toxic people.

["Write your answer in a way that it is easy to read "- Teacher. Best way write it in points]

1.Being self-aware and questioning ourselves and analyzing ourselves is one way we can review and that can pretty much help us not being toxic

2.Be alert but don't be sceptical towards our own people. Try to trust them

3.Be loyal towards them and trying to be there when they need us.

4.We should never stop learning and should constantly try to improve ourselves.

5.We should accept that No one is perfect.

6.Be a good listener

Now the thing is we can't remember all of these things and we don't have to btw once you read this it is pretty what can be done. Also, we should try to understand the other person it could by truth or dare game or spending time with them and don't deny another person if he or she wants to know more about you.

We should always try to be social even if you are an introvert. The basic difference is that an introvert does it 1 on 1 while an extrovert can easily understand others even while they are in a group. Understanding people and especially ourselves is crucial coz if we are not even trying, others will take advantage of us. 

We cannot change other people but we change ourselves. The most difficult of all is changing yourself the right way.